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asked me once if I had advice for her on her leather journey. I shared with
her these rules of engagement that I think are useful in bdsm
Be aware of your boundaries and be scrupulous in maintaining them. There is
a difference between relaxing a boundary because you choose to, and
having one run over rough-shod because you could not enforce it.
Honor yourself as much as you honor your partner(s).
Everyone deserves to be treated with dignity and respect. If that is lacking
in your relationship, reconsider your situation.
Devotion cannot be one-sided; it must be reciprocal.
You need to know what your needs are, before you can get them met. Be mindful
of that journey of self-discovery.
No one can make you trust them. Trust comes from within and grows from your
ability to trust yourself.
Remember that ultimately only you can keep you safe.
Basic Rules of Engagement